Do you have regrets in life?

[Zenlethic]

Feel free to talk about them here if you do. 

I have a few:

1. Not getting involved in school groups. I pretty much just wanted to put my time in and graduate. Looking back, doing that cost me the opportunity to learn better socializing.

2. Not trying as hard as I could have in college. Of course, the fact that I wasn't paying for it myself took away some of that fire to achieve the most, too.

3. Changing the theme of a forum I used to run. I changed it from a television board to a sports board, which caused people to leave. I learned from that mistake and wouldn't do the same nowadays.

[tea4me]

Yep.

1. Not finishing college the first time around. I went back later as an adult and have a huge amount of debt.

2. Not following my dream of being a concert pianist.

3. Not moving to Arizona when my dad gave me every opportunity to do so (it would mean moving closer to my family who all moved there).

[Dazzal]

I would have liked to be a small animal Veterinarian.
2nd. choice was an airline stewardess.
I wanted to move to Arizona as well because I have two brothers there.

[tea4me]

Nov 26, 2022 12:18:02 GMT -6 Dazzal said:

I would have liked to be a small animal Veterinarian.
2nd. choice was an airline stewardess.
I wanted to move to Arizona as well because I have two brothers there.

When I was a kid, I wanted to be a veterinarian when I grew up. When I was in my late teens or very early 20s, my friend and I seriously looked into airline stewardess courses. They cost too much, so we didn't go that route.

[Dazzal]

Nov 28, 2022 14:02:19 GMT -6 tea4me said:

Nov 26, 2022 12:18:02 GMT -6 Dazzal said:

I would have liked to be a small animal Veterinarian.
2nd. choice was an airline stewardess.
I wanted to move to Arizona as well because I have two brothers there.

When I was a kid, I wanted to be a veterinarian when I grew up. When I was in my late teens or very early 20s, my friend and I seriously looked into airline stewardess courses. They cost too much, so we didn't go that route.

Isn't that coincidental. lol tea4me,

[Deleted]

I do sometimes regret not socialising more at university. But I think it all worked out in the end!

[shortie]

I do have a few regrets in life, yes. My first one was moving out as young as I did from my parent's house. I thought it was great at first but soon realized it wasn't as easy as I thought. During that time I also got into a relationship that I regret as it meant I spent 11 years of my life with someone who mentally abused me. I finally got out but I feel like I wasted a lot of my life in that whilst I was too scared to speak up.

[Senkusha]

Regrets.

1. Obsessing over what other people thought of me, and attempting to conform to what they wanted, rather than actually LIVING my life.

2. Being such a workaholic. It took me way to long to figure out the way Capitalism lies to the average worker. Because I worked so much to try to get a better life, I sacrificed time with my family, with my son, that I'll never get back. And now, my body's all worn out and tired all the time.

3. Not listening to my elders. I mean *just* sitting there, and listening to the stories they had. All the advice that I'm finding out the hard way. All the fascinating stories they had to share. That's what life is all about -- the experience!

4. Not investing the $10,000 my grandmother gave me, and cashing out the T-Bonds my father gave me. Not committing to an actual investment plan when I was in my 20's.

5. Some of the more shady decisions I've made in my youth. There's too many to name, and unfortunately, each one lead me down a path to become who I am today, for better or worse.

[Melcharge]

Okay, here we go:

- Not getting mental health help sooner. When I first showed signs of bipolar disorder, I hid it, and didn't get help until later. What followed was a series of doctors and school counselors who didn't help much at all; they didn't look far beyond the depressive episodes to see that I actually have bipolar disorder, so they put me on antidepressants that made me even more hypomanic. Then I became delusional and paranoid when I was older, and had no choice but to get real help, and even then it was years and years until I was diagnosed with bipolar (I was diagnosed with schizophrenia when I became delusional, and they kept that diagnosis for nearly a decade).

- Dropping out of high school in 2011. To be fair, at that point I was getting NO help for my serious mental illness and the teachers had no idea what to do when I came to them with delusional beliefs. Plus, I was 17 and still in ninth grade, and it was clear I wasn't going to graduate. So I guess this wasn't really a "choice". The highest grade I ever completed was 8th, which I'm ashamed of.

- "Getting together" with this weird guy I met online, who promised me things like marriage and living together and never even met me in person once. After eleven years of no phone calls, no video calls, no Discord chats, and eventually nothing but a few words a day on email, I finally ended that "relationship". He was kind of a terrible person, really, and actively made my life worse. Like how he held things I said to him nearly a decade before over me to manipulate me into staying (I tried to break up with him multiple times over the years), and when I finally did break up with him, he turned all the things I told him about my life against me and used it to criticize me and put me down. I told him everything about my life, but he kept everything about his life hidden. I found out he had a job through his LinkedIn profile; he told me he was "looking for a job" for years to explain why he never spent time with me, but according to LinkedIn he had jobs he never told me about. There's SO MUCH about this guy that was shady and horrible, but I'll leave it at this for now. Needless to say, I cut all ties with him after we broke up and never talked to him again.